Being alone.
For so many it’s a scary thing.
I don’t mean being alone for a couple of minutes or a couple of hours. I mean being alone. Solo. Solitary. Lonesome. Alone.
Unless you’re one of those who truly enjoys being alone, it can be a very lonely place. So much so that it often inspires us to make bad choices. Sometimes downright crappy choices, just so that we don’t have to live in that lonely world of alone.
Sometimes when you’re alone and lonely, it’s easy to catastrophize. Meaning that you let that little lonely voice in your head tell you things like, “You’re always going to be alone,” and “You’re never going to find someone.”
It also seems that when you feel the loneliest, you happen to notice how the entire world is paired off in convenient coupledom. Where’s mine, you wonder.
When we are at our loneliest, that’s the time to embrace our aloneness. Sounds counterintuitive, I know, but when we are at the very bottom of the loneliness pit, that is the time to garner our courage and begin to build our lives alone from the ground up. Figure out what we want to do with our time and then do it. Figure out how we want to spend our day and then do it. Embrace yourself and treat yourself to what your heart desires.
The best way to get over the fear of being alone is to embrace being alone. Get comfortable with it. Get comfortable with yourself. Own it and ask yourself, OK, if I am alone for the rest of my life, what do I want my life to look like? Then live it and do it. Design an awesome life, all for yourself, all by yourself.
The most miraculous part of the whole ordeal is that once you get over your fear of being alone, you may actually begin to enjoy being alone. And even more amazing is that once you begin to enjoy your life as a solitary individual, you will begin to attract the attention of others who can see and feel just how alive you are, and they will want to spend time with you.
So get over that fear and embrace alone.
What did you do today that scares you? Share your story in the comments below.
Hey girlieQs!!
I’m finding you via the Too Awesome category at Nester’s, linking to you for a round-up tomorrow. I love your idea; it challenges us in the best of ways.
I remember the first time I went to see a movie by myself; it felt like an accomplishment. It WAS in a small way. I think the fact I still remember what it was bears testimony.
And…ironic: the most alone I’ve felt recently was in a sea of strangers at a football game. All those people and yet I couldn’t have been more invisible.
Robin, so glad you like our idea!
And now I have to ask you…do you LOVE going to the movies by yourself now? (I do!)
Thanks for stopping by!