It’s scary

It’s scary putting yourself out there in the world. Sharing a part of yourself with someone new. Being honest and allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Especially if you like them and you hope that they will like you too.

Whether it’s with a new friend or a new lover, it’s not easy being the real you. Opening up. Sharing your thoughts and opinions. What if they don’t appreciate what you have to say? What if they don’t agree with you? What if they just don’t like you?

Let’s be honest. It can happen. You might open up and share something amazing and they might get freaked out. Or you might share a deeply held opinion and it could turn them off. Or it’s entirely possible that despite your best efforts, they just can’t relate to you. Or even worse, maybe they simply don’t like you.

It’s possible.

All possible. Someone might not be able to handle the real you and might get freaked out and run in the opposite direction. Someone could get turned off by your opinions. Someone may not get you and they may discover that they just don’t like you. In any of these cases, as I and your mother would say…to hell with them then, you don’t need them anyway!

But let’s get real. Probably a little bit more likely is that they’ll appreciate how warm you are and how willing you were to be vulnerable in front of them, not even knowing if they’d be open and supportive.

And if you have a strong opinion that they disagree with, perhaps they’ll see that you are not your opinion. That your one opinion is merely a small part of a much greater whole in a person so very diverse, and perhaps that will make them so intrigued that they want to learn more about you and what makes you tick.

Rather than not like you, perhaps they will find themselves very drawn to you, and maybe they even feel an astounding connection, the kind that happens only several times in a lifetime. Or perhaps they uncover feelings that go much deeper…maybe they love you.

All possible.

But you will never know any of these things if you don’t put yourself out there in the world, if you fail to push yourself into seemingly scary situations, if you don’t open the window to the world of possibilities.

Sure, it’s scary. But without taking a chance, you have nothing. Jump in, even when you’re scared and open your heart and your life to a world of amazing relationships and opportunities. Open the window and let the breeze of possibility blow into your heart.