Another year is passing by and the holiday season is just around the corner, which means that many of us will be gathering with family and friends. Spending time with those we care about and doing our level best to make connections with them, deepen our relationships, and make the holidays have special meaning.
And yet, if we’re honest with ourselves, sometimes those attempts to connect fall flat. We wonder what we’re doing wrong. We wonder what more could we do. And we also wonder if maybe that person we’re trying to connect with just doesn’t like us or love us as much as we may feel for them.
But maybe it’s none of those things. Maybe it’s not about you. Maybe the well just isn’t that deep.
What does that mean?
Perhaps the person we’re trying to connect with on a deeper level just doesn’t have that much to offer. Perhaps they like you or love you, but they’re incapable of expressing themselves in that way. Or maybe they don’t feel comfortable with those kinds of closer connections.
As we approach the holidays, here’s what we need to do. Recognize that even though we may long for that deeper connection with a person, the well just isn’t that deep, and even if it hurts, it’s really not about us. It’s about them. Them and their inability or unwillingness to dig a little deeper or feel a little more.
So rather than being hard on yourself wondering what you’re doing wrong, take a look at the other person and ask yourself if maybe the well just isn’t that deep. Then allow yourself to enjoy whatever relationship you have with them, even if it’s not the one you’d hoped for.